Discreetly Terrified of Being Forever Alone: How to Make Friends Edition

 Do I have my financial aid turned in? Done! Am I moved in to my apartment? Yes! Have I learned the wonders of Tide Pods and Tide to Go? You bet, young grasshopper. I think I’ve got this whole university life thing down pat At least until lunch time comes rolling around and my stomach growls. Begrudgingly, I leave to the Met, terrified for some reason of eating alone. There’s something about being in a new place and wanting to have that companionship to make adjusting easier.

Forever Alone totally looks like a potato with arms!

V-Day Thoughts

 
   Soon the big V-Day will be upon us, and we all know what that means ~ having friends who are not in relationships being surrounded by lovey-dovey, mushy, kissy-face'n people ( here called LDMKF'ers ).

Ah, Valentines Day .... we meet again. 

[ Please understand, I 110% support the lovey-dovey, mushy, kissy-face'n "thing" ]

   I currently speak for the non-LDMKF crowd and hope to champion their plight to you, the romantically involved, date having person who  might not be too aware of how much pressure V-Day burdens us non-taken people with.

CAN'T. HOLD. ALL. THIS. DESIRE. FOR. A. DAAAAAATE!  
[ Picture depicted is an exaggeration - no man wears slacks like
this while holding the Stone of Pressure ]

   If you know anybody who will be single on Valentines Day, go out of your way where possible and give them chocolate - people love chocolate. Get them a small card, perhaps? Or, heck. just call them or let them know they matter. Valentines Day isn't just a day for romantic love, it is a day to show all the people in your life that you care.

   For those of you who are looking into taking your date out for a night on the town, fellow blogger Chrissy Jones has this to say about making sure you keep that special someone in your life!

But, seriously - people LOVE chocolate. 

   It can be hard sometimes for people who wish for love to watch others delight in it, however kind words, attention from friends, and being acknowledged go a long, long way in making Valentines Day great for everyone. 

 

Friendships with a Time Difference

My high school friends and I knew this day would eventually come. We are all literally on opposite sides of the world. At first, I dreaded the idea of making new friends. After moving 37 times before high school, I was not looking forward to moving again and losing these people.

The three of us learned thick lessons of love and money by trial. We sometimes learned by luck. We examined our desperately human parents, and learned to understand our own weaknesses. Fighting hurdles with heart, when other muscles lacked. I was scared I was losing a wonderful support system.

I was worried for my friends, too. Specifically, I would worry about my friend who was always more timid than me. She is studying in South Africa, and we are so proud of her! After seeing how much she has come out of her shell, I've contemplated how I could pay for it, and UT Tyler seems to have it covered. I want to travel, too! Maybe I want to go to France or China? I could go anywhere else. I could do anything.

Before she left to study in Africa, we traveled to Hawaii to see our other friend. She is married now and completing her degree. No matter how drastically things have changed, the three of us are closer than ever, and truly appreciate our maturing friendships. Our worlds are only expanding. So far, I have a vacation home in Hawaii and a couch to crash on in South Africa~