Makeup on My Face

Most of our male readers won’t bother with this post; however, I need to talk about this. I wear makeup; some days, I wear loads, other days I might barely wear any. I love my makeup. I wear it for myself and nobody else. It should not be a surprise that other people who chose to wear makeup wear it for themselves.

Objectification of the female body teaches girls and women that they are valued primarily for their looks, reinforcing the need to pursue attractiveness. [Moradi et al., 2005]

Our society pressures women for them to look “flawless and sultry”, and to strive to be the perfect facet of beauty for men. There are women who wear makeup because they do want to attract a partner, but that is their choice.

It’s unnecessary for men to judge women who wear “too much” makeup because it is instilled in women from a young age that to be successful in life and to be attractive, you have to be a perfect china doll. It starts even earlier than preteen ages. If you've ventured into the toy section, you might find that among the endless pink shelves, there are even "makeup bags" for toddlers.

Yes, this is a thing. Think about this for a second, a baby who is probably barely learning to speak and walk is given a "beauty box". It doesn't even take long for the fake compact of eye shadow made out of cloth to turn into the real deal. There is now anti-aging products and cosmetics aimed at 8 to 12 year-olds.

I owned fake beauty sets when I was a kid. I loved it. The only problem I have is telling young girls that makeup is the only thing they should worry about. Women should be given the choice to wear makeup. Toys R Us launched Goldie Box which promotes building toys for girls. I don't see how giving girls the choice between makeup sets or building toys and either choice be just fine, is a problem.

When it comes to wearing makeup, women are either told they look like they’re not trying hard enough, or trying too hard. There is no winner here.

This kind of vocal disagreement towards what women feel comfortable wearing comes from both men and women. There is a prevalent notion within women, that in order to be better than “other women”, you have to act superior to women that chose to do the opposite of what you do.

Nothing is worse than a caked-on face of makeup. To avoid that too-much-makeup look, follow these tips to get a naturally flawless glow (x).

When I want to wear loads of makeup, I wear it. End of story. When I don't feel like it, I don't. Both are cool. 

Guys, just respect the choice that women make with what goes on their face. If you don’t like it, fine. If you do, that’s fine too. Don’t be vocal about it; you weren't told from the age of 6 that your only hope at not being “lonely and ugly” when you’re older was to aim to look like an airbrushed model.

Ladies, remember that talking bad about the makeup that someone else is wearing does not make you any more physically attractive. Everyone is dealing with the dissonant society that yells at them to be two conflicting things at once.

For the guys that have made it this far, I thank you. Please be more respectful of other people’s choices. Also note that you don’t get to a medal of honor because you decide to post a status that you only like “natural” girls. If you do, that’s cool, but you don’t get any special cookies for personal preferences. 

Let’s just try to focus less on what people are putting on their face and try to focus on the content of the thoughts we leave them with.