A gallon of ice cream and chick flicks

After an intense month of deliberations, tears, painful truths my best friend broke up with her boyfriend, well now ex-BF. I walked her through this painful expertise, and this is my conclusions/ advice to her…you …me…the dumped…and the dumper:

DISCLAIMER: The forthcoming advice “Take it at your own risk.” These words are meant to help you, but use them according to you own case. Bold and capitalized statements are meant to be accentuated aka PAY attention. Finally this advice is common sense, I think…I am not trying to explain the meaning of life

1. The gallon of ice cream and chick flicks, or the 3 bottles of Cuervo are good for the day of the break up; after that STOP torturing yourself and all those around you by listening to every sad song, going to your “favorite restaurants” and mentioning your ex-significant other in every other conversation. STOP reading every note, and thinking of every conversation…STOP over analyzing, and wishing you had a time machine.

2. Is it over? YES!!!!! You must accept the fact that it’s over. Don’t hope for re-kindling the relationship. Don’t play the light switch game. Life tends to resolve itself… whether or not he/she is in the picture. You will be happy if you chose…YOU do not need anybody to make you happy.

3. Stalking is usually illegal, and even though FaceBook stalking is not…still is pretty creepy. Don’t ask don’t tell. Don’t go prying into their personal details and Don’t reveal your personal life either. Don’t use your friends or his/her friends like message on a bottle…hoping they will tell him/her you are “over them.”
4. Don’t burn bridges. Stay calm, cool and compose with your ex and his/her friends. YOU and THE EX are the ones who broke up, no one else had anything to do with it and let’s keep it that way. Have ONE confidant.

5. NOW your ex is your acquaintance!! Keep it friendly, nice and light (If you so happen to be on speaking terms) Only do the small-talk…with time MAYBE you will be able to philosophy with him/her about “what happened to us?” in a civilized manner.

6. Move on by keeping the good memories sweet. Always the break up is sour…don’t let that poison the “good old times.” Crack a smile or two remembering them.

7. Single life!!! Just because you’re newly single doesn’t mean you have to immediately start dating or hook up with everything that moves; surround yourself with great friends and good times. Don’t try to amp your “game.” Have fun and it is really true ”Great things happen when you least expect them.” Go do what YOU want to do.

8. Stop looking for Mr./Ms. Right… enjoy life and youth. You’re in college, try things you never would’ve tried, travel, kiss a person with a weird accent, read a book, listen to music with a glass of wine, do something creative, exercise... do what makes you happy.

Hope this helps!!!